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    Wow its been quiet in here today huh!

    Hey Lynn - I am looking forward to having him home, only 1 more sleep to go Re having tests done this month, I dont know if there is anything they can do. DH has to have his swimmers tested but he cant get in for that until 31st March (which I am sure he is happy about) and I have a Levovist booked in for 2 April. Other than that the infertility specialist is on 15 May and that is all they can do because they have confirmed I have O'd. I guess I just have to keep planning as per usual that I will O on or around CD14 and hope for the best. Its just really made me feel uneasy that I only had AF 2 days, I have never had such a short one in my whole life. I dont know, I am hoping it is this month but I dont like my chances - I have been hoping every other month and it hasnt happened. My sister says I need to think positively but I am finding it almost impossible. I guess it doesnt really matter if you have to wait for a scan to be given a due date huh, I mean you will know roughly how far along you are and the main thing is you are pregnant huh. I would love so much for all of us to get one this month

    How have you been today? Do you have to have more BTs this month? Dont worry about your ticker, mine was behind the whole way through my last cycles and the only way I got it to be right this time is because I told it AF arrived on the Sat instead of the Sun just so it would look right.

    Hi to everyone else, hope you are all well.

    Mel


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    Hey Mel,

    How was your day? Hope you are doing ok. Your sister is only trying to help, just like my family. They keep telling me to be positive but like you, I find it hard. Are you using OPK's to find out when you are O'ing. I know you hate them but have they worked for you in the past? I guess the only other thing to do is every second day from CD10 until you have o'd.

    I have been ok today. My friend from work came over this morning. I haven't seen anyone from work since I lost Cooper. I have spoken to the boss but that was it. She said that everyone would love to see me but I am scared to walk into that place because the whole time I was pregnant, plus every second person is either pg, just had a baby or their partner is pg............agh! Something in the water! I think I need to bite the bullet and go in so I told her I would ring her Monday morning and see how I am and probably go in on Monday afternoon.

    I have also been busy booking myself in for things......dentist, hairdresser, facial - maybe if I feel good, it will help!

    I have also booked into the fertility clinic - here goes!!!! They are going to start BT on CD9 which is next Saturday and then they will do BT every day or second day depending on what my levels are like. I'm going to be a pin cushion again!!! I don't care what they have to do as long as by the end of this I get my BFP

    I will be thinking of you tomorrow. It will be so nice to have your special little boy home with you at last Give him a big hug from me.

    Luv & hugs
    Lynn
    xxx

    p.s. I think our tickers are wrong because they are based on US time.

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    Hi Girls,

    Spring Wonderful news on little spring bean it sounds like he/she is jumping around which is great. Is it true your 12weeks next week? where did that time go? It must be such a hard decision on which way to labour im sure when the time comes something will lead you to the right decision. I hope you have agreat weekend with DH and hes not to tired.

    Lynn Wow mixed emotions....Iam happy for you that now you can start a new path to that baby making but sad the witch arrived. Im sending with all I have that this month will be the one.

    Michelle Alf sounds like he will be a very active little boy!!! trust me all boys are. Thanks you the booties I will give you my email if you want to send me yours and I can send my address......if any of that amkes sence!! Thank you for sgaring your story and thoughts with me, its all reaffirmed my decision.

    Mel Sorry poor old DH bum!!! Im sure all will be good, Its so hard when you just have to wait, I wish I could make "time fly" for you. But maybe while your waiting and making you will make that little bean!!! Lets think positive, also thank you for your help.

    Bailey Even though your in travel Im still jealous and the offer to carry the bags is still there! Your brought tears to my eyes with DS comment...the innocence of children, When I was talking to DS about the visit I asked if he was sure he wanted to go he was very sure mum, he wanted to say goodbye to GN as he wont be seeing her for a long time and that when she gets to heaven could she tell great pop how much he loves him and still misses him and if she sees Pusscar (our cat that died) could she please give her a pat for him.......this made my mind up there and then with tears in my eyes.

    Deb Where are you? Out chasing cows?

    I will have to go my girfriend has just arrived with her three boys so I must be off but should get back as DH is out for the night and I might get to use the computer for a change!!! hope you all have a great afternoon.

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    Lynn we posted at the same time almost!!

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    Oh Nat - your son is just beautiful. Your post brought tears to my eyes too. Children are so innocent.............why can't we stay like that!

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    In a way, and yes you can call me a freak if you like, I wouldnt mind having all those bloods. Although its easy for me to say as needles dont bother me, and I am thinking that at least it gives you something to focus on rather than just sitting around waiting and hoping iykwim. You will be a pin cushion but hopefully a pregnant pin cushion by the months end I wasnt planning on using OPKs this month, they have I guess worked in previous months but last month it gave me all negative and I stressed about it and then got the BT done which said I had Od so I wonder if its better to do what you said and pretty much (I love that one, hehe) every couple of days through the month - wont DH be in his element - and every day for the 4-5 days surrounding O time. Not much else I can do really.

    It might make you feel good to catch up with some of your work friends. If you dont want to go back into work can you arrange to meet them all for a coffee at lunch time or after work? I remember I was having panic attacks in the night before I was due to go into work again, but it didnt end up being so bad and everyone was really good about it all. In saying all that, if it gets to Monday afternoon and you change your mind I am sure everyone will understand.

    Good on you for doing some things that make you feel good, not really sure how the dentist fits in there (LOL) but everything else sounds great. I have a voucher that my mum gave me at my baby shower to have a massage but I cant bring myself to go get it, just knowing it was meant to be after I had my baby makes me feel weird about going.

    I hope you have a nice Friday night... we are off to buy a mobile phone cause mine died today Lucky I have a company so the company will now be a mobile phone richer.

    Take care,

    Mel

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    Sorry Nat I didnt see your post til after I posted. Your DS sounds like he has a pretty good understanding of the whole "death" issue and I think it is so beautiful he has messages he wants his GN to pass on to his loved ones What a sweetie!

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    I know what you mean Mel. I guess I am looking forward to actually "doing" something and focusing on something. This is your month I just know it! You just need to heaps ( I love that one too so had to use it again - he he)

    I know what you mean about using your voucher but I think you should. You deserve to pamper yourself and it may help you to relax as well.

    I hope you get a nice new phone. I never get a new phone - just a hand-me-down from DH

    Ok everyone I have a question to ask and it may be silly but I just don't know how I feel about it or what to do - I have a dinner to go to for DH's work. It is lounge suit and I have a black dress that I wore when I was pg and to Cooper's funeral. It is that baby-doll style, so it is fitted around the (.)(.) and then drops (hence why I could fit into while being pg and after giving birth). It isn't a maternity dress, anyway, i haven't tried it on or anything yet so I don't even know if it will fit properly but I just don't know if I can wear it again after wearing it to Cooper's funeral. I know it is a good excuse to go shopping a buy a new dress but I really don't want to spend any money because with me not working and the cost of the fertility specialist etc etc. Any thoughts???????

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    Hey gals

    I will try to catch up on all your posts and do some decent personals later but I just wanted to say two things.

    Lynn: About your dress, I think that if you feel ok with it, you should wear it. Just because you wore it to Cooper's funeral doesn't mean that it should be a sad dress IYKWIM. Perhaps buy a new shoes or bag to wear with it. I am sure Cooper wants mummy to look as gorgeous as she does in that dress.

    Mel: I don't want to go putting crazy ideas in your head, but have you done a HPT? The only reason I ask is that you are generally so regular and it sounds like implantation bleeding. I could be completely wrong, but it can't hurt to test.

    Be back later.

    Luv Spring

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    HI Everyone,
    I am really sorry for my absence. It's been a bit frantic here. I am feeling really really tired with my DH away. I have been getting to bed late and waking early with lots in between!
    I just want you to know that I have read all of the news and I will come back later when I haave some time to talk.

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    Hi everyone,

    Mel - I am glad for you that you get to bring Nicholas home tomorrow. It will be hard, but at the same time it is a relief. I know that when I brought Asha home, I felt that that is where she should be, with us. But it just isn't fair that we have to bring them home like this is it. I will be thinking of you guys tomorrow.

    Lynn - About the dress, I have a skirt that I loved, but I wore it to the hospital the day that I found out that Asha had died, and I can't wear it now. I think I will probably throw it. But that is me, if you feel ok in the dress then you should wear it, if it reminds you of Cooper in a good way, then maybe like Spring said, buy something new to wear with it. But if you will feel bad in it all day, than don't wear it. That is good about the fertility clinic. I'm not sure what goes on there, but you have so many plans in place, there is no way your little eggie's will escape too much longer

    Dream - Your son sounds like a wise young man. He seems to have an idea about death and seems to approach it in a mature way. I think that you are doing the right thing by letting him go and see her.

    I am going to try and get the little guy to bed, so I will be back on later.

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    Evening beautiful women,

    I will start where with what I was going to write, I really want to thank you girls for helping with this decision by sharing your stories it made me know that what I was planning was the right thing, DS also attends a catholic school where going to heaven, god and death are talked about freely so I think this makes them better prepared more so then me! But thank you all once again for sharing your thoughts and experiences with me it means so very much.

    Mel I will be thinking about you and DH tomorrow when you bring Nicholas home, I hope the sun is shinning on you all. all my love and hugs :hugs: I think you should have that massage, you have had your darling son and you deserve it more then ever, go and rellax it may help move everything on, and oh maybe do a hpk just to rule out or in?

    Lynn Maybe try the dress on for a few hours at home and see how you feel, as spring said Cooper would love to see his mummy look lovley and maybe splash out on new accessories. I dont know, the last two tops I wore when I had my last ultrasounds and found out there was no heartbeat I can never where when im pregnant but have since wore them while not its just a superstitious thing not that it made any differance. But see how you feel.

    Bailey Good luck puttting DS to bed trust me in a couple of years its so much easier! they tend to do it themselves......I still need to tuck him in, say prays and 5mins of kisses and goodnight cuddles, I cant help it, in a couple more years he wont want to know me

    Oh Mel and Lynn i think every second day till af arrives is a good one, DH misses al that so much I think thats why he is out tonight its just not the same!!! But I do have the old "You cant complain about how much you get" by the end of a month he has had enough! Since I have the chance Im off to bed ....with DS (has this idea that if dad is not home he should sleep with me....oh well) so goodnight all sweet dreams. Nat xxx

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    Well no new phone as yet - did you know it is really hard to buy a phone outright these days? I know, neither did I! You can get them on a plan or on pre-paid, but I already have a plan that doesnt end until November so cant do that. Anyway, I have found most of the phones to be really expensive so I am going to think carefully about which one I want before I buy cause it is too much money to just make a spur of the moment decision (although I have pretty much made up my mind).

    Lynn - Its a hard one about the dress, but Bailey is pretty much spot on. If it will make you feel good wear it but you think it will bring back sad memories or feelings then maybe dont. I do agree with Spring though, if you decide to wear it go and treat yourself to a new accessory to go with it. Besides the fact it is always nice to have something new, it might make it feel a little different to wear. Maybe try it on and see how it makes you feel?

    Bailey - You are right it isnt fair and definitely not the way any of us imagined it, but I am glad he is coming home cause I do feel like his place is with us. I havent been to eager to get him home until we actually went there a couple of weeks ago, but you know once you make that decision you want it to be now.

    Spring - I havent done a HPT and I so wish you could be right, but unfortunately the couple of days bleeding I did have was extremely heavy with lots of clots - actually probably heavier than usual - so there is no way I could be pregnant

    Deb - I can imagine how frantic your household would be on your own. As beautiful as children are, they can be hard work - all well worthwhile but nonetheless it makes for a busy life.

    Mel

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    Hi Nat, must have posted at the same time.

    I use that "you cant complain you dont get it enough" all the time on DH cause to be honest when it gets to the end of O time the last thing I want to do for a few days is , so he tries to tell me that its unfair cause he gets used to getting it all the time and then its taken away... whatever! LOL - he makes out like he is joking but sometimes I wonder

    Have a nice sleep with DS.

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    WOW Spring, I just checked out your ticker and lil Spring is 12 weeks tomorrow I know there is no "safe" time but still its a bit of a milestone Finally, you can tell your family - oh your mum is gonna be stoked, and your sis. I bet you are excited, maybe a little nervous too, but I would be dying to let the cat out of the bag.

    No more YAY!

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    Mel - I will be thinking of you so much tomorrow my love. It's a big day and a very very special one. Your little boy is coming home and I am so happy for you... :hugs: Mel - when did you last do a hpt? It did cross my mind also with the shorter period...

    Lynn: Yay for your period - now let's get down to business hey! CD9 and it all starts - it will be worth all of those sticks just to get a picture of what is happening in that wonderful body of yours. It won't be long Lynn and we will be congratulating you on your
    With regard to the dress. I am a bit like Bailey. I can't wear the clothes I was wearing when I found my babies were gone. I threw them in the lifeline bin and never wore them again. But that is me. If you feel good in the dress and you won't associate it with the sadness then tht is wonderful. Otherwise I think it's a good excuse to get something new and glam!
    Spring: YIPPPEEEE on Lil Spring doing all she/he should! You are nearly through the first trimester. I am so so happy for you Spring.

    Nat: it is good to see you again.

    Well, I have had a huge coulple of days. We went to "the coast" to pick up the fish tank yesterday. I decided to upgrade to a bigger size and it took a loooong time for four kids to decide on new fish, plants etc etc. Well we left the shop somewhat less flush than when we entered but with well stocked aquarium!!! Then we headed to Coles to do the grocery shop. Man.... Coles decided to rearrange their aisles and the whole shop was in a state of pandemonium. We had to bring the fish we had bought with us grocery shopping so they didn't fry in the car... Finn had to carry the fish of course and yes, you can imagine what happened. He lost them!!! ($30 worth of the little loves!!!) We searched high and low with Finn in hysterics and me not really dealing well with the situation (think late night shopping, lost fish, cranky kids and me on CLOMID!!!! ARGGGHHHHH) Then there was an announcement over the speaker. "Would the owner of a plastic bag of fish come to the service desk please". Well unless there was another out of their mind mother in the shop it had to be our fish! Finn was so excited and I was relieved! We left again less flush but with a well stocked pantry!
    I even squeezed in a visit to get myself a couple of new tops. YIPPPEEE!!!

    Today I had a meeting that went on and on and was one of those frustrating cerebral occassions and everything was just ANNOYING me.
    The fence is Almost finished but we have a gate and the post and rail is done just the wiring to go on Monday (but of course if there is the slightest drop of rain they won't come!!!!). So, our "girls" (chooks) can't come out of their coop yet. Never mind. Lucy told them this afternoon they only have 3 more sleeps left until they come out!

    I just talked to DH and he is tired and says it is really really cold and windy over there at the moment.
    Well last dose of clomid tonight. I ordered my ovulation tests from Lullaby and I am poised and waiting for take off!!!!! I am looking forward to getting into the garden on the weekend - I just hope the rain eases off a bit. I want some sun!
    Nighty night gorgeous ones...

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    Deb, that sounds like one hectic day! Poor little Finn, thank god someone was kind enough to hand them in - alot of people would have just taken off with them. Is DH due back in time for you know what this month? It must be so hard having him away so often.

    The last HPT I did was on Sunday morning and AF showed that night. I would truly love to think that it was possible I was UTD but the bleeding in those couple of days was just far too heavy to be implantation bleeding. I dont know what is happening - DH says maybe its stress, but I think everyone has stress!

    Have a nice sleep, and I hope you dont get woken up too early.

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    Mel, it sounds like your period was heavy and clotty. Maybe it just got it over with nice and quick and that's the last you will see for a looooong time. I hope so :hugs:
    Yes, I am cd14 on Wednesday and DH arrives back at 930am! I haven't ovulated on cd14 in my entire life so I am sure he will be back in plenty of time! I usually ovulate around cd17-19 and have ovulated later on clomid. It does get hard having him away. I actually enjoy it when he is gone a couple of nights. It is a bit of just me time at night. I like that sometimes. But 10 days is a long time for us both and for the kids. They miss their Daddy and so do I!

    It is absolutely bucketing down here at the moment. I have the cat sitting on my knee (Pat(rick) the siamese cat) and Doug our black labrador(sp) is knocking the gate to our deck as he wants to come on to the deck (he is not allowed as he rolls in cow poo and he smells!!!). The animals don't like the rain - there is lightning and thunder too and they get spooked I think. I know so many many people would give their right arm for the rain we get up here but I just want a little break for a few days! I went to Bunnings on the way home last night and got a few plants to plant out on the weekend - I NEED some SUN!!!!
    Night night Mel

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