Lynn: The decision to TTC or perhaps putting off TTC is such a personal decision and only you know what is going on in your heart and your head. You are not a quitter by any means if you decide to have a break.... I must admit, I don't know if I would have the strength to go through all you are going through and at the same time grieve the loss of a child.
How does DH feel about it? Are you on the same page or does he want to continue TTC without a break? I am so sorry that I am not being very helpful but it such an intimate decision that I don't want to let my opinions get in the way.
I could be wrong, but last time when you decided just to let nature have it's way you fell with Cooper didn't you? Perhaps that is your body saying let me do my thing. It must just get so tiring doing all the BT, scans, checks and I think that you know your body well enough to make the right decision for you and DH. It may be a stupid question, but are there counsellors who specialise in fertilty/grief issues? Someone who understands all of the emotions you are feeling and help you work through the difficult decisions you have to make. If you want me to, I can do a bit of research and see if I can find someone who can help you out. Perhaps you could just say we'll have this month off, go to QLD and reassess where to go from there.
No matter how long you wait, the grief for Cooper will always be there, but perhaps if you give yourself a bit of 'me time' the TTC journey will be a little easier.
I hope I have helped, don't really feel like I have.
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