Babies Born April 2008 #2

[Fire]

hi all.

we watch our videos at lunch time here, but still interested in the babes in arms movies... maybe one day i'll brave it.

moving back to the family bed soon. feeling nervous because i feel we've got a good rhythm and dont want to stuff it.

dh shaved his head recently and left a mohawk. freaky (he's usually quite conservative that way). anyway, he's about to shave it off. in case i've never said this... DH is amazing. truely incredible. he does everything around here, even when he had a fever of 40 degs and was shivering and sweating (he had taken too much on), he still did both kids while i slept.

i'm feeling very in love today. like that first week - remember those good hormones? love them.

sore back from front carrying. can't wait until i get the back carrier wrap and mei tai.

blah... nuttin' much to say. reading all your posts though, sending warm thoughts.

[Beatrix]

Tarnee- oon the weight gain my dr said that 120g is what they aim for in a week so i wouldnt stess. Babies dont read all the books or any on what they are 'meant' to do.

omg i have found the best dummy to give my boobie a break!!!

[sarah_dobbo2]

Beatrix: What type was it? Am thinking of giving Wyatt one, I swear he used my boobie for that yesterday from 5:45-9pm he just wanted boobie. Am not used to having him on that long. Am really thinking about giving him one...
Cheers
Sarah

[Beatrix]

sarah- they are Nuby Natural Flex pacifier. they have teething nubs, natural flex action that mitate the movement of your breat when feeding and Hygienic Air system. I tried it myself and it actualy does move slighty back and forward as you suck like a booby does. and thy are on special at Target this week 20 or 25% off

[alittlegrubi]

Sarah Lactation Consultant told me to offer my little finger, pad in the roof of mouth to see if they are using you as a comforter. If they cry still after sucking on the finger for a short time they are hungry, if not then they need a comfort suck. It prents you from doing much - but then you'll know if a dummy will help before getting one.

Fire we all want your DH Are you in love with DH or the baby?

Beatrix at babies reading the books, even the mums haven't read half of them.

Tarnee can you give the 4 mls via bottle without mixing it in with the feed. I've seen these medi-bottle things "MediBottle Pediatric Medicine Delivery System Bottle" on ebay from the US that helps with giving medicines.

[Tarnee]

OMG Grubi - why didn't I think of that??? Babybrain. Of course you can give them the 4mls via bottle on it's own. But i guess it would have to be a special bottle so that the 4mls didn't get 'lost'. (you can never quite get the last bit out of the bottle without sucking heaps of air).

BTW - went back after posting to get Charlotte and she was fast asleep - must have heard my rant and decided to make me look silly!!

Also, for those with crying bubs - they are not doing it to drive you insane!!! The child health nurse reminded me that at this age they should be crying for about 2 hours per day - it is their way of releasing tension and communicating. Even when I add up all the little 2 minutes here and there, there is no way Charlotte cries for that long - so I will think myself lucky!! I just remind myself of that when she does cry!

[Fire]

Tarnee, that's crap, very old fashioned (emotionally dangerous) advice about putting a baby down and expecting them to just "fall asleep". Sometimes they do, but it isn't going to happen other than accidentally when what they want is a warm human body - it is an inbuilt expectation, a need of human contact. This has been studied and verified. What health facility do you go to? Next you'll be hearing, "just go in every few minutes, reassure the baby, and leave... soon enough they'll learn... well, they'll learn never to trust us cos we'll never respond to their pleas for comfort" Those health centres need new rule books, seriously. The only thing a baby needs to "learn" is that life is safe, mama is always there, and comfort is there at merely a glance.

HTH. Trust yourself, mama, follow your gut.

This issue is a trigger point of mine, is that obvious? I had to heal my first born because of that same advice. She's still healing... she's six years old.

[Fire]

I should mention, since my last post was a bit short on it, that I'm only talking about crying or otherwise distressed babies. Not contented babies laying on their own.

Sorry, should have mentioned that.

[mgm]

Fire I had an awful nurse one night at hospital (thank god I only had her once) who asked whether I was happy having the baby in bed with me. I said yes, I was. 'She'll get used to it, you know', she said - I replied that this was fine. Besides, I'd had a c-section the day before and bed was really the only place I could keep my baby to be able to look after her. But not able to leave it alone, she told me that the smell of the mother's milk is 'unnerving' for the baby. One of the most bizarre things I've ever heard from a midwife! She added that having her in bed with me was against hospital policy (it wasn't). I couldn't be bothered even entering into a discussion with her. If I'd told her I co-slept with DS til he was almost 4 she would probably have died of shock!

Tarnee I have a friend whose babies all fall asleep by themselves, with little or no assistance. They were born this way and have remained great sleepers. Some people have all the luck!!

Sharon hope you're feeling better and that Oliver's crying will ease up soon. DD isn't much of a vomiter but the times that she has, she's been extremely distressed by it. It doesn't take much to set them off... or maybe it is just to torture us...

green poo - any babies with this? DD's has been bright green for a week or so, although there are signs it may be returning to a more normal colour. MCHN is suggesting lactose intolerance - but oh god i don't think i can give up dairy, life is difficult enough already! i may just cut down and see if it makes a difference.