Many women do end up confused and upset with advice given from hospitals - I think it's one of the top complaints which I see women make, is the support afterwards and help with breastfeeding. It's when you get home and things start falling apart which is time to try somewhere else like the ABA or a lactation consultant - and one appropriately qualified to do so. Sometimes midwives can give the advice but without being certified. An IBCLC (international board certified lactation consultant) is the top qualification you can get (but not the be-all and end-all as it is very expensive to sit) - huge exam, massive books to study, huge hours required in actual experience etc - Pinky has recently done this exam but even MCHN's don't have such specific training - they need to be doing this training too. I have seen and heard of too many MCHN's suggesting formula too quick, which is why you have to keep seeking support (which can be frustrating). A qualified lactation consultant is a good port of call - she can come to you, she can see you and she will stay for hours at a time until you are satisfied - and you can call on her other times, so you get that continuity of care.

But for now, remind yourself that you ARE doing a great job, you DO love your baby and you DO only want whats best with the support you do have. The system is very woman un-friendly. We need more anrgy women to stand up and say that we've had enough and we deserve better. That's why I am a member of the maternity coalition.