Oh girls! Nic, Tali! I sympathsise!

Nic: yes, it's not your fault at all darl! Niall is a wanderer too, more so than Wade or Verity. I've just got to be more vigilant, it's sooo hard i know and unfortunately you can't trust other people to keep an eye out either. Last week I lost Wade at Kinder. It is a very secure place, at least 2 safety gates... but while I was putting Niall in the pram I wasn't watching him and by the time I had finished (Niall was kicking and screaming) Wade had gone. i called him (he usually comes) and I noticed that both gates were being held open by young children for their parents and/or siblings. I thought 'surely Wade wouldn't have walked out with out me..' but where was he??? Not in the playground... not in the classroom??? Where??? I asked every parent around me? "Wade's gone! Did you see where he went??" They kinda gazed around sleepily... ARRRRGHHH only one mum could tell how panicky i was and she dropped what she was doing and said "you go that way i'll go this way!" Well we both looked... no Wade. She had gone out the front to the street and came back asking whether he would have crossed the road... I said "No way!". Finally i remember the toilets (but he usually asks...) and I head toward them... and there he is coming up the stairs (the toilets are downstairs... he is reluctant to go without getting me to wait nearby) and i call out "Wade!!!" he is all confused as to why I am so frantic! but he was gone a good 3-5 minutes... so unlike him. Good grief. With Niall i kinda expect him to wander... but when a kid that usually stays nearby wanders off it's shocking.

We've all been there Nic, (and if we haven't we probably will!) it's impossible to keep your eyes on them 24/7.. your MIL was kidding herself if she watched your DH every second of every day... how easy it could have been for her to console you instead of making you feel worse!

Tali: I know that feeling. But mine is because of my thyroid. It is sending our too many "blood boiling" hormones.... i feel like screaming every day... but now at least i know why. If it persists maybe get a blood test darl (thyroid test). It helps when you know you feel that way for a medical reason. Now i just turn my back on the situation (if I can) that is making me aggro or I say to Wade (who partially understands) "Mummy is feeling angry..." He instantly replies, almost without fail: "Mum, go take your vitamin B" That is his prompt, his contribution to calming me down. I tell him I need to take vitamin B's just to make it simple... it's just one of about 8 tablets i need to take so when Wade gives me the prompt it usually means I have to take one anyhow! If you can tell your kids to say something in particular when you are about to blow your top it kinda helps... hearing them say something in their little voice can pull your finger away from the trigger of anger. And when i do go take a tablet i come back and say "thank's Wade... I feel better now" and apologise and tell him calmly what he was doing that made me get cross.

DD going on camp this week... they need my help.... back tomorrow!