Babies Born March 2008 #5

[prama]

hi girls,

quick one. another exhausting day. Poopy has been crying a lot.
The visit to the LC was good. it was a follow up from last week. She noticed that once he latches on, he pulls back and sucks. so he's sucking on the nipple. there's nothing wrong with the way i hold him or attach him which is good news.
we went to a speech pathologist to make sure there's nothing wrong with him. she was just lovely. there's nothing wrong with him, so im really happy. he just isnt opening his mouth wide enough.
she suggested giving him some rooting reflex exercises and changing his teat on the bottle, to use the old style ones which are long and narrow and it will get to the back of his mouth and it will get him to open up. the newer ones have short teats which make him suck to the equivalent to my nipple.
so will see how it goes.

thanks for all your thoughts on my tiredness, the LC said something that I had completely forgotten.
I have Lupus which makes me tired very easily, and i need to have a long long sleep to get over it which i havent been getting. i just got an hr's nap but that still makes me tired. hope to get a long sleep on the weekend. i will go see my gp if she can recommend something. oh, while i was feeding the speech pathologist said my right nipple which gives me the most grief was whitish, i told her about the white spot. she said it might be vasospasm which would describe the pains im getting, so need to ask GP that too.

re tummy time, Lakshman doesnt like at all when he's on the mat and he doesnt want to lift his head and just kicks. he's better when he's on my chest.
i asked the lc about this, and she said try on the floor as it;s best and lie down with him (didnt really make him lift his head just now) and if it's on the chest, get as horizontal as poss. and it better if dad does it cos their chest is flat and also cos bub will get confused with our boobies.. whether to play or eat!

bbl

[shell_120308]

I prefer for my breasts to be engorged so I know how much milk I have..... with them being so floppy type feeling I can't tell how much is there, i can't feel it..... I just tried to feed him and he wasn't getting enough so decided to give him formula which he didn't drink, and still unsettled like he is hungry but tried to express and not getting alot at all. So I am not sure if my milk is settling, I think it is low.... He is still getting wet nappies so I am obviously feeding him enough. I will get him weighed tomorrow to check how his weight is because it has been 3 weeks since his last weigh-in.

Prama - sounds like your LC apt went well. Over the last few days when my boobs have been less engorged, DJ hasn't been opening his mouth wide enough. So, not sure what is going on. Will go to baby clinic tomorrow.

Trina - i know how you feel about washing, all I ever do is wash haha and yes how nice it would be to have a housekeeper haha maybe add it to our wish list for mothers day

Hope you are all well.

Chat soon
Shell xxx

[Sammiejane]

morning,

Paed appointment went well, Mollys Hips are ok the DR was brutal though and she screamed and screamed, it was awful, especially as she is not a crier at all - he said yep their fine, i am sure they are and then rotated them again after she had settled, i felt like punching him and saying well if they are fne f**k off and leave her alone dont do it again you bully!

Shell - my boobs feel soft all the time, MJ is fussier at the boob too, pulling off and then going back on, i think that it is because she has to work harder as the mlk is not pouring out! she is getting enough though - as long as there is wet nappys DJ should be too.

Tummy time - Molly sticks her bum in t he air, the health nurse pushed her bum down and she started to lift her head, maybe try this, also if she is on the edge of somethng - like our bed or change tableand she can look down she tends to lit her head to look at me (i stand or squat in front of her)

I think everything is catching up with me - since having Molly i have not had one day time nap (i find it difficult to sit down) i dont feel tired in the day, but when i am at mothers group or listen to you guys and i hear that everyone is taking time for themselves feel sad.
we are up every morning at 7am and i dont really stop, the only time i get a bit of me time is when i hop on here and then i feel guilty.
Yesterday i was at the factory from 9.30 to 5pm and felt like the worst mummy in the world, Molly was with me and she was fine, but she didnt get enough interaction from me as i was working.
spoke to DH and i think that we are going to look at getting someone in to do the books so i dont have to be in so much (especially as we are getting busier)
I feel like i do have to get the place tidy each day and the washing done, and feel really guilty if DH walks in and the place is a mess and there is nothing organised for dinner - he couldnt care less at the state of the house and would be happy with cheese on toast but i would feel like a failure.
anyway, that was a bit hard to admit i think that i am going to do a few things for myself a it more. Speaking of which i decided yesterday that i would meet up with Jo for a coofee, so i am really looking forward to that tomorrow...
Sorry guys, i seem to just come on and whinge lately, but it has been a very hard few weeks.

[all girls]

to you SJ, I know what you mean about wanting the house tidy when DH comes home and organizing dinner but sometimes it is impossible to do in my house. Try not to make too much of a habit as my DH expects it now, even when i am working. My first night home from hossy when i had Summer he asked me what's for dinner WTF??? I'm sure your DH is much more understanding than mine. You need some you time, when Molly has a sleep whack on a movie and lay on the couch and if you feel like a nap then go for it but if you don't at least you laid down and had a rest. It is very important as a Mummy to look after yourself cos if you don't you'll find yourself years down the track just burnt out. Feel free to whinge any time hun, you have had a rough trot lately. Can you go have a massage with your sis?? Maybe that would make you feel a little pampered.

[shell_120308]

I am soooo tired this morning, Dj now sleeping 4 hours so I shouldn't be sooo tired, but I am..... arghhhhh Going to try and get some sleep later today, tried just then to get another hour but the phone kept on ringing arghhhh don't you just hate that?!! Might just have to let it ring next time.... My milk seemed to be better this time.

SJ
I think I was just so used to them being big and engorged all of the time that I figured it was my milk dissapearing but good to know it is just settling. DJ definitely getting wetter nappies so nothing to be worried about.

Great to hear paed apt went well but how mean of that doctor we have to get DJ's first immunisation next week and I am not looking forward to it because a friend had her little boy done a few weeks back and he wouldn't stop crying at night from it..... arghhh Must buy some childrens panadol. I gave what we had left to them.

You need some time out hun, even if it is just to watch some tv or read a magazine. Get yourself a copy of the latest Practical Parenting mag and get a cup of tea and sit outside if it is nice weather. I find that is the most relaxing thing to do. Nap times are hard, I don't feel like I have a full 1 hour nap because DJ always stirs with his wind while sleeping.... I don't worry about the house anymore.... Our carpet and tiles are filthy as!!! I haven't cleaned them since before our baby shower which was in Feb!!!! Just haven't had time since DJ has been born and hubby been busy as well. We are having friends over on Sunday for his birthday and I told him he needs to give me a hand around the house cleaning the floors and he said he would phew.....

Have a great coffee with Jo tomorrow

arghhh I am soooo tired, having a cuppa now and hoping I might get back for a sleep which I doubt it because DJ due a feed shortly haha

Shell xxx

[danniellabella]

I'm heaps tired. Not coz I was up with Jazz, she slept from 11am until 8:30am. I just couldn't get to sleep until after 2am. My mind was racing and DH was snoring so bad. I ended up waking him up to tell him to shut up and I took a zyrtec to help me get to sleep.

I'm thinking about returning to the workforce. My friend has emailed me about a job going at the hospital she works in for an admin reliever position. It's mainly 9-1 but occasionally will be 9-5. I'm partly ready but at the same time, part of me never wants to return to the workforce. The thing with this though is it's a government job so the pay is good and if I'm still there when I have my next bub I'll get paid maternity leave, plus it's also very easy to move around in government once you're already in. But if I apply and get it then it means I might be starting in the next couple of weeks.

Jazz has her 8 week injections tomorrow.

[prama]

bugger - just typed a whole bunch w one hand and lost it!

sj - dont you feel like rotating the paed's hips over and over again & see how he likes it!!
i know what you mean about feeling guilty. i feel like im not doing enough or doing it right. he still doesnt want lift his head when he's on the mat, i feel like i havent been doing enough to help raise his head, or i must be doing something wrong. and sometimes i just want to sleep but he doesnt and im trying to get him to sleep so that i can rest. he only does 15, 20 mins naps during the day, and I think my Lupus making me more and more tired.
pls dont feel bad hun. i know it's easy to say and we all feel the same. i guess we ae all trying our best, to do our best for baby and still fulfill our responsibilities. it can really get to you cant it.
good idea about putting bub on the sofa/bed, will try that.
i just got back from hornsby westfields, i sent my car for service nearby and wandered the shops. he slept almost the whole time and only woke up when he was hungry. i should have just gone to the parents room and slept there too.

shell - we got some baby panadol and that helped settle lakshman. he was very brave and didnt cry when he had his needles but was feeling yucky at night. he didnt cry but was very restless, and felt a bit warm. the panadol helped him sleep. i gave him once that night and the next morning and he was heaps better by the next evening.

DH has been promising to vacuum for weeks, i keep reminding him as we put bub on his playmat on the floor and i dont want him breathing in stuff from the carpet. but i'll let him go this weekend as he's feeling fluey, poor hubby.

i saw a Star wars lego set at one of the shops today, was tempted to buy but too expensive and too early. i thinking of getting some cloth books. all these things to do, and i feel guilty for not doing them or reading to him, and am soo tired. i sing and talk to him all the time but at times i have to force myself. im sure he must sense that.
he;s asleep now.. should do some cleaning up..
trina - take care

shell - im not the best person abt bf-ing but mine no longer feel engorged even in the morning, tho the LC said i have enough milk. nd she said sometimes they pull back when they have at a lot if milk at the start and need a breather.