to you SJ, I know what you mean about wanting the house tidy when DH comes home and organizing dinner but sometimes it is impossible to do in my house. Try not to make too much of a habit as my DH expects it now, even when i am working. My first night home from hossy when i had Summer he asked me what's for dinner WTF??? I'm sure your DH is much more understanding than mine. You need some you time, when Molly has a sleep whack on a movie and lay on the couch and if you feel like a nap then go for it but if you don't at least you laid down and had a rest. It is very important as a Mummy to look after yourself cos if you don't you'll find yourself years down the track just burnt out. Feel free to whinge any time hun, you have had a rough trot lately. Can you go have a massage with your sis?? Maybe that would make you feel a little pampered.