And gigi true to my personality we are doing the opposite to Christy

It started just family and a few close friends but even with just that we have 30 people coming. Man I am mad! We are celebrating surviving the first year with all limbs and a degree of sanity attached, and also tying in our xmas get together bcos we prolly won't have another chance.

Hugs :hugs: gigi it sounds like you went through hell. The banalities of at least you have a live baby are bcos people don't know what else to say and can't deal with being uncomfortable with your grief and anger. I got similar banalities when mum died - you know at least she isn't suffering anymore blah blah.... nice for them but ineffectual for me.