Babies Born September 2007 #19

**Trillian** · February 11th, 2008, 09:29 AM

I would be complaining too Katie. I would be livid about it - particularly if they didn't even ask first.

Noni, how did mothers group go?

Not much going on here, but the rest of the week is flat out. Tomorrow is V-day and then Wednesday is Alisters appointment and then I won't be on much for the rest of the week as DH will still be moaning and groaning no doubt LOL and he needs to get his BAS done. So if I'm not around, everything is OK, but can't get on.

**Cally** · February 11th, 2008, 09:31 AM

Noni - hope mothers group goes well.

Arte - good luck with the move, 'see' you next week in NZ!

Bilby - I went through a stage when I was taking over an hour to get back to sleep, very frustrating. It passed for me, so hopefully yours does too. Glad that last night was a bit better.

Fianne - glad the lump is going.

We haven't started babyproofing yet. She hasn't started rolling, so I figure I still have a bit of time. We don't have a lot of things for her to play with at a low level, it's mainly the usuals like power cords as well as protecting furniture corners.

**reneenay** · February 11th, 2008, 09:34 AM

Yipeeee Rory can find his dummy in his cot and put it back in his mouth (most times)! And he can hold his bottle!

BBL for personals, rory has go thimself stuck in the playgym!

**Leemar** · February 11th, 2008, 09:37 AM

Hi Girls,

Sorry for the MIA. Xaviers Op went well and he is back to normal his finger is also doing well and we had the steri strips removed on thursday last week and now he just has a bandaid on it. I can not believe how it has growin back together its amazing. He has to wear ear plugs when he is in the bath and shower and no swimming until after our appointment with Dr Hodge which is on the 18th. We also got our new tv and tv unit it too is also amazing. It took DH 4 days to set it all up and 4 trips to wow for different cords I told him next time I will just pay for someone to come and hook it all up as it was way to frustrating letting him do it. lol. I am ok now and went out on my girls night out on sat night and boy did I have a hangover on yesterday. DH kept laughing at me. Champagne - perfume going in and sewage coming out. We only went out for dinner and back to a friends house. We are going to do it once a month and next time I think it will be out for dinner than dancing.

Hello to everyone and sorry I have not read any post yet. But will catch up.

Have a great day

**Cally** · February 11th, 2008, 09:40 AM

Leanne - glad that the op went well and that X is feeling better.

Renee - that is great when they can settle themselves back to sleep, the last few mornings we have heard K playing, but by the time we get up, she is asleep again!

Sherie - good luck for DH tomorrow!

**Leemar** · February 11th, 2008, 09:41 AM

Renee- Congrats to Rory what a smart bubba
Babyproofing- Well My house is already babyproofed but they always seem to get into and find everything.

***noni*e*** · February 11th, 2008, 10:14 AM

hey everyone
just got back from mothers group.. it was ok, nice to get out but i dnt feel comfortable in new social situations hoping it will get better if i keep making myself go..
feeling really down lately.. feel myself getting angry at Asha too when she cries or gets up early/dosnt sleep through.. i am such a bad mum

i am still really unhappy with my physical appearance and i feel like its been 4 mths and i have hardly done anything.. i keep losing weight but i dnt feel happy about it i feel like i cant excersise enough, the more i do the more i feel i need to do i am desperate to get a big loss on wednesday but i know even if i do the happiness will be short lived

dp still dosnt have a job hes really getting to me i know if he tried harder he could have one by now hes currently in bed (12:15pm) because he stays up late, he claims so he can feed Asha and now hes refusing to get up because hes too tired, sometimes he just dosnt get how important it is that he gets a job idk i am just ranting sorry will come back later when i have calmed down if it ever happens

**reneenay** · February 11th, 2008, 10:56 AM

Noni - Im sorry you are feeling down in the dumps. Dont worry, mothers group will get easier if you keep it upI Tomorrow I have a meet up with a lady & her baby that I worked with. We have both reached out to each other as we both have bubs around the same age. I Although I know it will be slightly awkward as we were not that close but I know it will get easier if we keep meeting up for lunch now and again.
I have been amazed at your energy over the past few months. You always seem to be out and about! You have inspired me to join curves which I will be doing next week. You should be very proud of evrything you have achieved!

There are a few good websites around for job hunting. He could try jobsearch.gov.au or we have thewest.com.au which is our local paper online. Maybe he could try the website for your states paper? Has he joined up with a job placement agency?? I worked at an employment agency and we offered interview skills, resume assistance and motivation seminars. It sounds like he needs some motivation??

**MamaPan** · February 11th, 2008, 02:14 PM

hi everyone
Noni - so sorry you are feeling down about things - i think we all have these times and i hope it passes for you soon. Dont be too tough on yourself - you are doing so so well! I like Renees ideas to helpDP get a job. I am sure he is stressed about it too! I am glad you went to mothers group, and remember people only join these groups if they are interested to meet new people so it is a great opp for you to meet them and make some new friends. Babies are great ice breakers I think!
Leeann - so glad you had a fun girls night, if anyone deserves it you do my dear! Glad the op went well too.
We havent started baby proofing yet - i guess we need to do that sometime soon. Noah is rolling but he had a few days he did it all the time and now it is just once in a while.
Sherie - big week for you (and DH!) - hope it goes well! Do the kids know what is happening??

Well news from me... we decided to start N on solids - after the nurse and dr pretty much insisted. The good news is that he seems to LOVE his food - grabs the spoon, smiles and opens his mouth as soon as i sit down to feed him. he cant get enough of it. bad news - well he cant get enough of it and I didnt know i was meant to be careful how much i gave him (dumb i know) so yesterday he had a big serve of carrots... he was up at 3am and then 4.30am (and stayed up) with i am sure tummy pains.. poor boy i feel so silly! anyway he has done a poo now (sorry if TMI) and seems to be happier and today i tried him on apple (just a little bit this time) so i hope that goes down well. he was not a fan of rice cereal( tried that sat) so i thik i will try to stick mainly to veges and fruit. he didnt like the apple as much as carrot. tomorrow i might combine them! Thanks sherie for your reassurance in my other thread! BTW it is pretty cute watching him eat but i did get a little sad as he is growing up!

***noni*e*** · February 11th, 2008, 02:37 PM

thanks guys... on a completely different note in mothers group today there were 8 of us and only two of us didnt have c sections!! not only that the only other person who didnt have a c section claimed to have a 30hr labour and an epidural.. i didnt realise it was so uncommon to have a natural birth these days?? they were all like wow are you serious no drugs??? i mean dont get me wrong i am not knocking what anyone choses, alot of them infact werent planned c sections i just didnt realise that was they way most ppl end up going.. two bubs had hip displaycia as well one severe and one not will be good for them to talk i am sure they were both talking about feeling a bit of a lack in support...

**reneenay** · February 11th, 2008, 03:15 PM

Im having a planned c/s next time. Im not going to run the risk of going through what I went through with Rory again. After 15 hours from being induced I was in full swing labour with the works for 25 hours, and to think I believed them when I was told 12 hours was the average!

Ive been meaning to ask everyone. Did you all have that moment. that 'oh my gosh, ive just given birth to our son/daughter' or 'this is our baby' moment??

**MamaPan** · February 11th, 2008, 03:29 PM

i totally had that moment Renee - and i have tears in my eyes remembering it!

***noni*e*** · February 11th, 2008, 03:32 PM

deffinately renee!! and like i said i want having a go just didnt realise how common it is.. deffinately dont look down on anyone for making that choice! if i went through what you did i am sure i would feel the same

**reneenay** · February 11th, 2008, 03:49 PM

I never had that moment

And I think about it all the time.

I know Noni

I have only just realised how common it is too, Its just out of this world! Ive just been thinking about it for a while now, and DH and I decided on Saturday that we have having a planned c/s next time. As you can tell I feel ripped of about my labour LOL! Im like a bitter old woman, I rant and rave about it at any chance I get haha.

Hayley - How long do you think it would take to get to Moore River from Quinns??? Im thinking about organising a big family day out! Did you enjoy yourself at Lancelin? How did Maddy go?

**Trillian** · February 11th, 2008, 04:19 PM

Noni, I'm sorry youre not feeling well within yourself ATM. Its hard when things just aren't going the way you want them to. Do you think he's a bit depressed? I wish I had a solution for you. Glad you think you will keep going to mothers group. Soon you wont feel so shy around them.

Pregpan, glad the bum trouble is somewhat sorted LOL. Don't sweat about him not liking farex, it's horrible stuff and Paige was the only one of mine that loved eating it. I gave the other two fruit or custards for breakfast instead.

Leanne, so glad that the op went well and everything is healing well for him. Does his ear bother him ATM? it must feel a bit strange. LOL at you having a hangover, that'll teach you

Definately keep doing it every month though (although maybe not so much champers)

Renee, I did have that feeling with all of mine, but with Lindsay it was ever so slightly more special because he was my first. I had these feelings of "OMG, I just gave BIRTH!" to "OMG, this is MY baby and I don't have to hand him back to anyone" I am still in awe of myself for having given birth - it never ceases to amaze me. I'm 100% supportive of you for your future births, god, I don't blame you really, you probably did get a raw deal and I would be feeling ripped off about it too.

***noni*e*** · February 11th, 2008, 05:10 PM

had a lovely bath with ash, just what we both needed i think filled it up with lavender bedtime bath n just laid down with her in the bath.. its thefirst time she hasnt cried in a bath

she was just staring up at me and occassionally kicking her legs under the water it was beautiful.. dps gone to his mums to print something so us girls are unwinding and its nice!
renee - dnt get me wrong i know uve had a hard time with everything but just so u know i had what alot of ppl would call a good labour n birth (certainly the ppl in my mothers group would) and there are still things i feel like a bitter old woman about!! dnt blame u for going planned c/s atleast u know whats coming that way!!
sherie - yes i think he is depressed but on a VERY selfish note i need him to support me coz i am going downhill pretty fast myself i just dnt have the energy to look after two ppl plus myself iykwim? i understand thats completely unfair of me but its just the way i feel..

**Ginger** · February 11th, 2008, 07:07 PM

well, where do i start???
i've been mia for a few days, been up to Echuca for the Southern 80 ski race and look how much i've missed! just been reading over the posts while i'm watching 'so you think you can dance'. it's taken me an hour and a half to read all the posts!

noni - just wanted to say hi! and sorry you've been a bit down and out. being a new mother takes a lot out of you emotionaaly, and i really hope you're not being too punishing on yourself with the weight loss...feeling bad about your body can add to your feeling bad about yourself- i know cos i do it to myself a lot! glad you enjoyed your time in warburton- we can see the warburton ranges in the distance off our back deck. it's a beautiful place. glad your friend's little baby is doing so well now.

md- i have been craving haigh's for the last hour and a half now! grrrr. you are very disiplined not eating the whole box! i'm such a pig- i can never stop at one of anything!

pregpan- sorry you've been having some troubles with the childcare thing, i wish you lived closer to me- i'd tell you to drop noah around here for the day!

hayley- i was so sad to read about those mean mummies! you don't deserve that at all. i think you are amazing! you are so young and have such a good head on your shoulders. when i was your age, all i cared about was boys and make up. i was way too self obsessed to be a mother...i think you are fantastic. i wish we all lived closer to each other and could meet up in real life.

art- best of luck with the move!! how exciting

ummmm...too much other stuff to remember off the top of my head!!!
big hellos to sherie, agnes, renee, jaz, queenie....lp- where are you????

**AnyDream** · February 11th, 2008, 07:27 PM

i understand thats completely unfair of me but its just the way i feel..

Noni NO that is not unfair of you, it's completely fair, you need help and support too, not just to be giving out and caring for everyone else. I hear that you're worried about your exercising, do you think it's worth going and having a chat with your GP (he seems to understand, doesn't he). It sounds a bit like your anxiety is escalating (and you've got a lot more stress with DP at home by the sounds of it) so now might be the time to go and do something about it before you go past the point of being able to do something about it. Make a plan before you hit that point.

We all need a little extra support from time to time and now sounds like that time for you. xxx

Noni, I'm glad the mother's group was good, it will get easier and easier each time you go until suddenly you'll realise you have all these new friends!

Re all the CSs, reminds me of when I was in grade 12, there were 8 in our French class, and all bar 1 student's parents were divorced! Not quite the national average...

Renee - I totally understand your choice to have the planned cs, I was like the homebirth-hypnobirth-naturalbirth queen when I had DD1 and it only took about 15 hours of hell on earth to beat that out of me once and for all! (LOL) I've gotta say I was pretty damn empowered this time round and lucky things went the way I wanted them to. I must write E's birth story up one of these days, I can't tell you how deeply it has affected me in a positive way. I feel 'healed' in a really deep and fundamental place.

Re the 'this is our baby' moment, it was far more mindblowing for me this second time than the first time, I think I was a bit out of it from drugs and shock with H, it sort of took a few hours to come to grips with having a baby (in fact I remember coming home and still trying to process the fact). Whereas this time round it hit me in theatre, I couldn't believe she was finally here and looked so different to my first baby! LOL! In some ways, even tho the birth was easier, the road to actually holding E in my arms was a lot longer and harder. (*scrabbles for a tissue*) Gee you sure know how to get us all crying Renee!

Leanne, good to hear you're back online and X is recovering well, that's amazing that his finger is growing together like that! Glad you had an excellent time out with the ladies, I sure could do with a dose of that!

Fianne, glad the lump is going!

Rach, soooo pleased to hear you got some sleep, one good night makes all the difference doesn't it? I've been running myself ragged for quite a few weeks and when I was able to relax again (last week) I had trouble getting enough sleep too. Seem over that now.

Re babyproofing, soooo haven't thought about it yet, i'm sure it will happen when it needs to! H was always good about not getting into things, I think E will be different, already she's so much more fiddly with her fingers than H was! We've had a few firsts this week, she's rolling over like crazy, now wriggles to the top end of her cradle, we had liquid spit raspberries first then a few real pbrrrrrr raspberries, and her latest trick (not one I'm fond of) is she's learnt to make this choking noise by sucking in while holding her throat taut (!) Hope she gets over that one quickly, it's Freaking me OUT!

And just a very BIG WOOHOO! Went up to Sydenee on Sun to collect my new ebay Emmaljunga pram - it's a beeee-yooo-ty! Nearly new because the lady I bought it from was tiny and it just too big for her to heave in and out of her 4WD. Yay for me! Now I just have to work out how to operate it LOL.

ETA Gracie I still have most of the box! I had a lime cream one last night, it was dark chocolate, ooooooh yuuuuuuuuum!