clover, JW parents will attempt (as best they can) to bring the children up according to the standards of the bible, this is why the kids appear to be restricted from the normal activities that other children are participating in. Some parents allow their children to associate with their school friends (i do) while others wont. This is not a JW rule, its a personal choice that each parent must make. I've chosen not to allow them to associate with certain school friends in settings that conflict with our standards or religous beliefs such as birthday/christmas/halloween or easter parties. .... but they can go to see a movie or come over for a bbq or go to the beach together.

Like any parent, we want them to adopt our standards and morals, but the fact is that not all children grow up to become a JW just because their parents are and again, this is their personal choice. We allow our kids to make that choice as they get older because faith is a very personal thing and it should amount to a relationship between the individual and God. But while they are still young, we have the responsibility to teach, direct and guide them and to make certain decisions for them. This would have been the case with your old school friend.

I can assure you that there are no Jw rules about sending naughty children away. It certainly would not have happened becasue the congregation shunned her and thus the father had to send her on her way. Its more likely that she chose to leave rather then live under the restrictions that her father put on her.