another EDD coming up

[briggsy's girl]

thanks so much for your responses ladies. I think DH has realised how much this is getting me down at the moment. he's coming home tonight for the night to be with me, and is coming home on tuesday so that he's here for me for the EDD on wednesday. at least i'll have his snuggly shoulders to cry on...

[butterfly_warrior]

I have to agree with Lynn - the lead up is worse than the actual day.

I don't know that there's any easy way to get through those dates and times. Other than taking a big deep breath and just pressing on with life.

What ever happens, BG, know that there are many of us here thinking of you and willing to lend you some strength to get you through this.

I'm glad DH will be around a bit more to help you.

BW

[mrsmac]

I think the other ladies have expressed things better than I could, all these anniversaries are hard, but remember we are all with you in spirit and thinking of you.

[Lynn]

I'm glad your DH is coming home to be with you because you will need him. Have you thought about doing something on this day? Or buying something in memory of your angel?

[briggsy's girl]

Lynn, we've planted a rose near our front door for our angel, named Angel Face, and another couple - the Children's rose, and the Bonnie Babe's rose in the same garden bed in honor of our angel. I wear a bracelet permanently that DH bought me after we lost our angel (it's only been taken off for EPU last year), and we're both planning on getting another tattoo but it's been delayed while we go through treatment...

DH just asked me our plans for Wednesday - i initially said stay in bed, cuddle, and cry all day. but i'm realistic - it will be hard, but i need to do something proactive for us on the day. i'm thinking roast dinner, and the day outside tending our baby's garden beds (we also have Mother's Love and Memorium roses in our front yard for our earlier angels, together with Joyfulness and New Era as our inspirations in that garden bed). we'll rip out the few weeds that are in there, give the roses their autumn haircut, and plant spring bulbs as something positive - won't see the real results for a while, but it will be a start of something new...

i'm sure we'll be expected to make a show at my parent's place for dad's birthday - but it's a 40k round trip to hear dad say "it's just another day" then put his hand out expecting a present. it's NOT just another day, and they either get it, or they don't - but either way, we're spending the day as US.

[Willow]

BG, that sounds like a lovely day. I always stay close to home on our anniversaries...I feel safer that way because I never really know how I'll feel until the day.

Last year I was very pregnant (L was born about 2 weeks after the anniversary) and I found this VERY hard, anxiously awaiting the arrival of one baby and mourning the loss of another. I just hung around home and cried a lot and then went out and brought the 'angel' pandora charm for my bracelet. I wore it on a necklace around my neck from that day until I brought L safely home. It was very important to me to wear it during my labour, it helped me to somehow feel like our baby was included in that special day and that she was watching over us. Now I wear it on my bracelet between my 'girl' charm for DD and my 'boy' charm for DS; one for each of my babies.

I'm sure however you spend it will be just perfect

[mako]

BG I'm sending you huge too. The day you have planned sounds beautiful. I'm sure your little angel will be with you too.
Anniversaries are really tough and I know what you mean about nobody else remembering. My dh doesn't even remember our angel babies dates or anything. He tells me its his way of "coping" and he thinks I should be the same I just can't forget as easy as that iykwim.
Anyway I just want you to know that we are all here for you and don't worry about your dads comments or anyone elses for that matter.
It really sucks that these date are all significant for other reasons too. My 1st angel was lost 1 day after my nan's b'day and 2 days before Christmas, so people never understand why I'm not happy at that time of year

Take Care BG and wrap yourself up nice and tight with your DH.
I wish you all the very best for your next FET too