Lynn, we've planted a rose near our front door for our angel, named Angel Face, and another couple - the Children's rose, and the Bonnie Babe's rose in the same garden bed in honor of our angel. I wear a bracelet permanently that DH bought me after we lost our angel (it's only been taken off for EPU last year), and we're both planning on getting another tattoo but it's been delayed while we go through treatment...

DH just asked me our plans for Wednesday - i initially said stay in bed, cuddle, and cry all day. but i'm realistic - it will be hard, but i need to do something proactive for us on the day. i'm thinking roast dinner, and the day outside tending our baby's garden beds (we also have Mother's Love and Memorium roses in our front yard for our earlier angels, together with Joyfulness and New Era as our inspirations in that garden bed). we'll rip out the few weeds that are in there, give the roses their autumn haircut, and plant spring bulbs as something positive - won't see the real results for a while, but it will be a start of something new...

i'm sure we'll be expected to make a show at my parent's place for dad's birthday - but it's a 40k round trip to hear dad say "it's just another day" then put his hand out expecting a present. it's NOT just another day, and they either get it, or they don't - but either way, we're spending the day as US.