Hi Nessie,

I am also so sorry to hear about the loss of precious Daniel. I am another one who lost my little girl last year to a cord accident, during labour. It is heartbreaking and you are so fresh in your grief, do not expect too much of yourself.

I told all my friends who were having babies after my little girl died that I will not be going to any baby showers. I made the mistake of attending one and left in a complete mess that left me depressed for days. I felt unable to shift my mood. I felt embarrassed at my reaction and frustrated that I couldn't change the way I felt. I haven't been to one since and don't know when I will ever go to one even though I have just recently given birth to a healthy baby girl.

We are all different in our reactions and you need time to grieve and begin the healing process. Baby showers are too confronting about what you don't have and want so desperately.

All the best Nessie, I hope your friends understand like we do.

Love Lynnette x