YOU are the one who deserves a medal hun, for having to put up with that bull****!

Despite the fact that DH actually said that at this point in time I seem happier and seem to be coping better with life than I did 12 months ago, the FS considers that the anxiety/depression I suffer from is so bad that putting an embryo back now would be a complete waste of an embryo. He also thinks that I'm at such a high risk of post-natal depression that if I did end up having a baby now I'd probably end up killing it. He said that part of the reason I don't have regular cycles is because of the way my brain works.
WTF?!?!? How can any human justify saying that to you, to anyone, ESPECIALLY given what you've just been through. FOr a FS he sure doesn't seem to have much of a clue how it feels to have fertility issues! I'm aching for you BW, i'm horrified that he could have put you through that Also WHY does your FS think he knows you better than your DH? How did he come to that conclusion? Based on what, 3 hours a month with you, IF THAT!? Unbelievable.

You SEE Dr S and get the answers you need from someone who can give you them. It seems to me your FS is uppity because you want answers outwith his area of expertise and he's uncomfortable having to say "i don't know". The truth is NO-ONE knows, YET, why the caterpillar had to go. And your FS MIGHT be right, but you need to KNOW that, not just think it or hope it. You do what you need to do to feel ok to go on, and then you go on. Ignore this man and his unhelpful "opinions". If people's mind's played such a huge part in their fertility he'd be out of a bloody job wouldn't he!? What an idiot. He might be a great FS, but his bedside manner sure leaves a lot to be desired.

Shore up your defences hun. You're mind is beautiful. The anxiety is extremely justified, you are not causing this. I agree that you could do with being less stressed but i think keeping away from your FS for a while would be the best first step!

Oh sweetheart. I feel so far away and useless. I'm thinking of you and praying for you lots.

:hugs:

Bec