Megsmum - i'm so sorry for your loss, take as much time as you need to get over this, there is no magical wand that can be waived to make everything ok, i guess just look to meg and your dh and know that you have their love and support. meg may not understand but i'm sure she can see her mum is upset, give her as many cuddles as she'll let you give her. you will get through this, just take the time to grieve. you and your family are in my thoughts.