hello,
firstly, i am so sorry for your loss, i had a very similar experience just over a month ago, i was 9wks 4days when they told us our baby had died abd was only 4-5 wks.
Finding this site has been the best thing for me, at the time of my experience i just wanted everything over with and had a d&c asap, i didnt ask any questions, i didnt have any questions at the time...it was far too overwhelming, later on though my head was full off them and the ladies on here have eased my mind that i am normal and am not going through this all alone.
the hardest thing for me to come to terms with is the silence, i had a lot of support from my family and dp to begin with (the first week) but after that it was like no one wanted to mention it, i felt like everyone just expected me to "get over it" and get on with life but its not that easy, is it?
From what i can gather it is very normal to want to try again straight away, to have that pregnant feeling back.
also. men seem to differ in their reactions to these things, this will sound horriid and at the time i thought so too but my dp said that it was hard for him to feel sorry about losing something that wasnt really there in the first place, that it was not a "baby", just a bundle of cells that didnt grow properly. I think that for some guys it is easier to think literally about these things, i also think that even though rationally i can accept that opinion, its not what its about, it is the dream that we mourn, as soon as we find out we are pg we dream and plan and prepare ourselves for what we think is an immenent arrival, then suddenly it is gone, just like that.
I hope that everything works out for you, and wishing you a bfp asap if you want it!!
we are always here.
xxxx