Hi Toritlr
Sorry to hear about your loss.
You will find that men greive in a hidden space away from you so you can't see their vulnerable side, they want to show the tuff man.
Don't worry about him just take care of you at the moment as you have gone through a horrific time. I was like you I couldn't stand the thought of a dead baby inside of me but my body didn't wait for the D&C I lost my baby in the bath room.
As far as TTC I was told its best to wait at least 1 cycle to make sure all hormones are back to normal and everything is ok. From personal experience I would do that.

For me it is a year ago that I lost my Angel and I still am crying for my baby, I have planted a rose in the garden, I was given a statue of an angel and I named my baby "Angel". It takes a long time but can move on and remember the baby without crying.

Take care of yourself
Chris