HA - Can't ever hold a candle to our Lulu, she's irreplaceable - but we will be here. It won't ever be the same, but it will be something.

Gigi - I read this thread and the previous one through last night and felt like she was still in the room with us.

If Bilby does have SPD (and remembering some of your posts when she was much littler she seemed to show some traits which, now I know more about it, could have been early indicators - I remember how hard it was to settle her as a baby and that she'd scream for hours - could have been a sensory thing? Euan was, and still is a bloody nightmare to settle and it's probably mostly sensory, we just haven't figured out exactly what yet), then early identification is going to help. No question about it. And if she's not, then it won't hurt either. So getting her checked out would be win/win. Ask for an OT to do a sensory profile. matey. Could also be that she has mild sensory issues and the recent changes in your lives have brought them to the fore. A friend of mine thinks her daughter may have mild SPD but it only ever manifests when there's big things going on - she noticed it most when they moved house. Euan's OT put it really well - we all have sensory issues to some degree, just that for the vast majority of people the threshold is much higher so it is generally manageable, but stress lowers the threshold.

I hope that you do end up as a (never be embarrassed) gate-crasher, but if not, you know we'll welcome you with open arms.