DH and I have "joked" that he is asperges. He kinda just smiles when I say it now. He is. No doubt about it. He says his child hood is similar to Evans. Which is why we are working so hard to change things, well not change Evan but change how it is for Evan. Dh never got help. He was in his 20's before he started getting help for his anxiety. But his parents fail to see the problems. Both him & his sister suffer with Anxiety. When I talk to his Mum about it though she just goes on about how she doesn't understand why they are this way. they had loving, well socialised childhoods. But Dh wont talk to his parents about how he feels his childhood was & its not the rosy picture she paints. I feel really sorry for him & what he had to deal with on his own. Its really sad that he was alone through his childhood with an obvious ASD. His mother did tell me he was tested by the "university" as a child as he was so smart. She has said they said he was a savont (sp?) But she doesn't seem to realise what that means. The man selflearnt to read before he attended school yet couldn't catch a ball, make friends etc. DH hated school & says it was the most miserable time of his life. Which is his motivation to help Evan.
I guess maybe too, all of this coming out with both out older boys, its becoming more "real" & I think he is having a hard time dealing with it. Or more dealing with the memories its probably triggering for him. Seeing himself in Evan & knowing how that felt.

I was asking Evan the other day about what he got up to during Lunch time. He said "nothing, I just wandered around the school" It really struck a cord for me. You know that song by Kate Miller Heidke "Caught in a crowd" (YouTube - Caught In The Crowd (Lyrics) Kate Miller Heidke) there is a line in it about how he use to walk the boundary of the school every lunch time. Maybe its just the hormones but holding back tears just listening to that song now. Hate to think this is what school is/will be like for Evan.
gah anyway...

Laura - Do you think maybe getting DS to draw/paint, that sort of thing might help him express himself. It must be so hard to watch him struggling like that. Glenn has trouble with his speech. But he just gets loud when people have trouble understanding him, he seems to think it because we can't hear him.
I guess also, just letting him know its ok, take your time no need to rush just think about what you would like to say & that you will take the time to listen.