Oh Christy I second maz, somethings are best ignored. There have been days where I have taken myself and a cuppa outside as far away from the house as I can possibly get for 5 minutes of peace (as long as he is safe)

We rely a lot on sensory stuff, Xander has a hidey hole under his bed where he goes when stressed, a weighed blanket for deep pressure and I'm hoping to get some mattresses/gym mats to throw himself around on.

Hope things get better:-)