i think it's a respect thing Bx - you know now what i'm going to name my bubba - if you were pg now, and chose to use that name, i'd find it disrespectful IF you hadn't voiced a like of the name at the time i mentioned it to you. i think people need to come up with names they like themselves - yes, you might see something in a newspaper and think yup, i like it - but when someone you're close to says "i'm going to name my child X" when you've never even considered the name, and then you decide you'll use it now - well, it kinda smacks of a lack of respect (and creativity) for the person that voiced they would be using that name

as i said, with our boys name, BW had it on her list - she chose to remove it when i said we'd be naming our baby that if it was a boy - i didn't ask her to. it was out of respect - it was a contemplation for them, a decision already for us. BUT, she did say it was on her list, and if she'd chosen to use it, so be it - she didn't decide she liked the name after i'd mentioned it kwim?

everyone is going to have a different opinion on this subject based on their own experiences - this is just mine...