ultimately, it's up to you whether you use the name - if she has not said to you "we will use the name XYZ for this baby" then i wouldn't worry about it this time round - if it's a name you love, USE it - esp seeing that you aren't close friends

i had a name i loved when i was in my early 20's - three names together - i figured it was a lovely combo, but i never told anyone. my mum's bestie became a grandmother when i was 22 - and her grandaughter shares both first and second name from what i loved. there is NO WAY they could have known i loved the name, and even if they had, i wasn't in a position to use it at the time and why deny a beautiful little girl a beautiful name?

fwiw - the name was Lilliana Caitlyn (i also had Louise as my family tend to have three names)