Advice that makes you feel guilty or inadequate....

[HellRazeD]

I get comments all the time. A neighbour told me to smack my 10 month old for crying a lot when she was teething & when I said "No, I don't think a smack would solve anything" She promptly ended our friendship! Seriously... because I wouldn't take her advice and smack my teething baby, she decided I was an inadequate mother and couldn't be around me.

I decided I didn't need someone like that in my life anyway.

OH my GOD! Thats just wrong on SO MANY LEVELS!!! A smack is fine for misbehaviour from a 3yo (is thats not your thing, I respect that, but it worked with mine after she played with the heater and nearly burned the house down, so I stand by it when necessary), but a TEETHING 10 month old???

[olliesmum0206]

please help i am at my wits end ! between my mother and MIL- they are both driving me crazy. They treat me as if iam idiot. no matter what i do or say they still keep commenting on everything i do. I am oliver's mother not them, i do not know everything, but i do know what's best for my son. i have snapped at my mother at a few times, but my hubby doesn't back me up when it comes to his mother. anyone got any advice ? i'm desperate and feeling very alone, i'm sick of being made to feel like a bad mother

[Cassius2]

Olliesmum: i think you need to be firm and have a time out from them for awhile. a good friend had a very entering mum who would criticize her parenting, housework, food etc etc, all the while visiting her all the time and not giving her and bubs a moment to themselves to bond as mum and bub. in the end she told her mum that she needed time out, and that she will call her when she is ready, and that her mum is only welcome when invited and is not to pass judgement. it may sound harsh but it was the wake-up call that her mum needed. and their relationship is stronger for it (and the rules have relaxed again and everyone is happy)...

ATM i am getting the whole: 'oh you're still b/f?' comments. they are driving me insane and indoors. i no longer feel comfortable feeding DD in public for fear of overzealous know-it-alls.

[HellRazeD]

ATM i am getting the whole: 'oh you're still b/f?' comments. they are driving me insane and indoors. i no longer feel comfortable feeding DD in public for fear of overzealous know-it-alls.

Cassius, Please try and keep up the confidence to BF in public. I know how hard it is, believe me. Read my little rant above. But just fire back at them, that its best, and why would you NOT do what is best for baby?? I know I can sound a little mean, but it just gets me so IRKED when people are so snooty to think that once you nolonger have a newborn you should stop BFing! I mean really! Take the opportunity to show the world what wonderful and beautiful and FUNCTIONAL breasts you have, and do some much needed educating in the process!

You go girl!