I want to add to Feathertop's issue of not paying closer attention. I found that many, many moms would ask me stuff that I had no idea I was suppose to look our for. Like exactly how many wee's she does, how many minutes it take me to get her to sleep, exactly how long does she sleep, how many times does she wake, when does she cry and why - that kind of stuff that I thought was sort of not nessesary to know. I mean it took heaps of time to get her to sleep, but if I knew the exact minutes, I think I would have gone bonkers. And about crying, I could not tell the difference. I am honest to admit that I did not know why she was crying, sometimes I still don't. And mothers telling me they know exactly why their bubs are crying, get me thinking I must be not giving enough attention.

Also now, ppl asking me the dates and times of her firsts. Like when was the first time she slept through? I don't know - I was to elated to remember a date!! And when was the first time she ate solids or the first time she laughed. I know that may seem dumb that I don't remember, but I can't pinpoint one day, she smiled but then we were not sure if it really was a smile, or just wind, and when she started lauging (I can remember why she did, but not when) we were just so happy to hear her little giggle that I did not spoil the moment to go write it down! Ppl telling me exactly the date and time of their bubs first's gets me feeling a bit inadequate for not paying more attention (like Feathertop said)