Hi Girls, I am new here and this thread caught my attention. It is so horrible what you girls have been going through. What ever happened to supporting our sisters. I remember my MCHN telling me that women are so hard on themselves. We continually berate ourselves for what we believe should be the perfect mother. Sure there are terrible mothers out there, but we are doing the best we can in a society that expects us to have it all!! My MIL used harp on and on about breastfeeding and that she had a lot of issues breastfeeding my husband so that must be why my son is crying so much..... HUH!?!?!?! How on earth she came up with that conclusion, I don't know. It turned out the bubs had awful reflux and once we elevated the cot he was fine. But if I had taken her advise I would have stopped breastfeeding, which is not what I wanted to do.

I just don't get why the people that claim to care about us and even the total strangers can be so judgemental. It is so depressing that our mothers, sisters, grandmothers, aunts, neighbours, girlfriends etc, feel the need to make us feel like complete s**t. My personal favourite is when you get advice from people who don't even have children!!! What's going on here? What they read a book about parenting and then suddenly they're an expert... The way I have learnt to deal with these people is let them yap on as much as they want and then do what I feel is right for my bub.