Hi Leasha. I think it definitely depends on the couple. My DH gets up all the time. When DS was younger and I was bf'ing he would get up and do the pre-feed nappy. We pretty much share it all where biologically possible. But you defintely have to make your views and needs clear and encourage her to do the same. Partners often assume it all comes naturally to the person who carried the child and unless she is feeling the sleep deprivation she probably doesnt understand exactly what it is like. Have a think about exactly what you need and will be happy with to feel loved and supported. Also be assured it definitely does get easier as Jazz gets older but you definitely need to vouch for more support now. Big hugs.