At first, DS was all mine at night. DH slept on a campbed in the nursery so DS and I could co-sleep and that was great.

10 months later I was back in the bedroom and up with DS every time he woke, but no night feeds. This went on until about 13-14 months, when I made DH put DS to bed some nights and actually help on the really bad ones.

Now, I usually try to let DH sleep. But if I've been up more than an hour, or if I'm knackered and this is wake-up #3-4, or if it's after 6am, I kick DH out of bed to help (sometimes, after 6am, DS comes in with us and chats then runs off to play - but that's DH's choice because he whinges when I made it!). If he's had a really bad day or is having a busy week or I'm OK with it then I don't, but usually once a week he's out of bed helping me. I nearly did last night but then remembered just how much of a state DH was in, but I did wake him up at 11.30 just because... he could stay in bed but I wanted him awake for it!

We agreed on this, pretty much. While I was BFing it was only fair I was up all night. If I'm struggling DH will help. But his work is waaaay more important than mine (he's responsible for planes; if one crashed because he said it was air-worthy and it wasn't because I made him get out of bed then that's a big thing to live with) and I cope with lack of sleep more than DH - and yes, we knew this pre-baby.

We are equal parenting, just about, now. But that's OK, I wanted to have a baby more than DH did at the time and now DS is a toddler DH is enjoying it more. Sure, the split is maybe 65-35 with me doing the most, but then I work part-time atm so we both think that's fair. Pooy nappies are split equally too, DS makes sure of that (he prefers DH to change a poo when he's around LMAO). DH also does one early morning a fortnight so I get a lie-in, usually after a bad night at the weekend. But as I said, he needs more sleep than I do so that's fine with me.