Were you scared beforehand and how did you remedy that?

[ree]

ive been pretty lucky with the births of my babies

i have a massive fear of the epidurals cause i dont want a needle near my spine and tearing so when i had my DD at 19 all i could think was dont tear dont tear (luckily i didnt) then i cried for the epidural and was told no cause it was to late which in the end i was stoked about

with my ds i was more worried about what he was going to be like after birth cause i went into labour at 23wks my waters broke everyday and i haemoraged everyday til i had him at 30wks after 7 false labours in that time i just wanted him healthy at 30wks woke up to go to the toilet and felt his head told the nurse i was in labour and she laughed and told me to pull my head in i wasnt that she would get the CTG machine i had him after 25mins she walked in and crapped herself cause i had had him by then i had pushed the emergency button and all the other nurses come in in shock

with my dd i was so excited to have her i dont know why i was pumped and ready i sat there and read a magazine til it was time to push i had a lil tear but didnt need a stitch i was mega chuffed cause she was 8lb 4oz and had a head of 37cm and i had done it i was induced with her

with this lil man im excited but a bit worried as ive put on over 30kgs and am sstressing he is going to be 10lb lol but after last DD anything under 37cm head im sure i will be right

[Sagres]

Yes I was very scared when I was pregnant. It was strange because that isn't really typical for me and the way I deal with things, so it was a bit uncharted territory for me. What helped me was finding out more about labour and how things go and what options I would have. That and telling myself that in reality I am a pretty tough chick and I can grit my teeth and do a lot of other really hard things so there was no reason why this would be any different.
But even after that I was still pooping myself. That was for a first labour though, so a bit of a different situation yeah?
Once I got into the thick of labour I didn't feel scared, I guess the job at hand was all consuming and didn't leave much head space for fear?

Sorry, not sure if I am being very helpful but I think it is something that not everyone will admit to, and I think it is useful when people are open about these things, so I am trying to be that person who is honest about feeling scared.