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[skeetaboat]

Ok, caught up.

Regarding point 3, I wouldn't trust them! Even if they have educated themselves about caring for someone with SPD, having them as your caregivers again isn't a recipe for a good experience, if for no other reason than you keep thinking about their incompetence last time. Can you seek out another care giver? Maybe even one who specialises in SPD and labour?

I guess there's two things to look at (maybe more?): the experience of birth, and the outcome. In terms of outcome, you've got the risks of VB and CS to consider and weigh up. I think searching through some studies comparing the two and thinking about the risks is a good start, as is thinking about how you will feel about various outcomes (sounds like you're doing some of that ). In terms of outcomes for your SPD, as you've said, no one seems to be able to tell you what the outcome will be either way whether via CS or VB, but you do know that the last VB caused considerable problems, so it's fair to assume that the next VB has potential cause the same/similar problems, potential which may be minimised with better care (which you don't yet have). You don't know if a C/S will cause them or not (is that right? how would you feel if it did? Or if it didn't cause the problems but the SPD didn't go away after the birth?)

In terms of the actual birth experience, it sounds like CS might pan out better for you, unless, that is, you feel adversely towards having one or any of the associated risks. So the question there is how do you feel about CS?

Sorry, haphazard post, just thinking aloud...