Hey -
Adding another persepective, The stepmother caring for her stepsons full time!
We do get c/s from their mother, i think its like $30 a forntight, haha, as you can imagine that pays for ALL the boys needs hahah! (jokin here) But we don't expect her to pay anything else, they are our kids, we choose the school and what they wear, and I feel (haven't really spoken to DF about this in fully so this is my opinion) but they are our responsibility and we should foot any bills that occur.

I do understand that it is hard. But if DD was just yours and DH's child you would have to pay for everything?!?! so getting the C/S i see it as an added bonus.

If you get what i mean?

I don't think you should tell your DD what is going on with ex, any parental/financial disputes are between you two (or four - the adults) she will know as she gets older who pays for what...

I know when my parents split dad didnt pay for anything, it was my mum and step dad and they didnt complain once, nor did they ever say anything bad about dad. Which was great because it allowed me to make up my own mind about him and sore him for who he really was if you get what i mean?

Hope my two cents didnt offend anyone...