I think it is mostly he is scared that he will lose his wifey to the big black hole of post natal depression all over again. Therefore "TRYING" to conceive makes it a more valid concern. I don't know how else I am supposed to prove that I am healthy and in control. I have said numerous times that I will see a psychologist during pregnancy if it will help him feel more at ease - and for my own sake but i also think that second time around - WANTing to have a child, and being PREARED emotionally and financially with adequate support will make all the difference.

I completely get where he is coming from with that but I can't make the fact that yes I was a mess for a long time go away.