hun, why not try to CREATE the mood where dtd isn't seen as a chore for either of you - i don't know what your partner does for work but things like sending teasing messages, massage, romantic dinner - and make dtd about the two of you again, not about ttc - and if he's really not in the mood - then don't force the issue - yeah, it sucks that you may miss your fertile time, but your relationship is more important - and you never know - with a little effort to make dtd about each other and your desire to be intimate with each other, it might just happen tonight anyway...