Ourlux, ttc fun? Ha - no way! Well, maybe it is for some people, if everything happens quickly and easily... but i am finding it one of the hardest emotionally and most stressful things i have ever done!

The thing that worked for me and dh was working out a plan, so that we both knew 'the schedule' so to speak (my cycles are predictable, so it is easier for me in that sense.) It might seem unromantic... but i found it harder to have to be in charge... to have to initiate when it was such a fraught 'have to' kind of issue instead of a romantic overture... iykwim? then i would get upset if dh didn't respond the way i wanted him to. This way, we know when we are meant to bd, and just get up earlier in the morning, it becomes a joke to us if we don't feel in the mood, and we get on with it. It doesn't stop me stressing altogether, but it helps a lot, and it means we are both on the same page.

Also, don't worry about dtd consecutive days in a row - there is an article floating around that reccommends this and says it decreases genetically abnormal sperm! so, go for it