You girls are wonderful, i feel a lot better! I also had a chat with my hubby who is also amazing, he reassured me that there is no perfect age gap and that we should just go with the flow and re-evaluate if not pregnant within a few months.

It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I had been trying to make things romantic, i was getting out the nice lingerie etc, but i still knew the mission was to conceive and it felt wrong. The best times for us are completely spontaneous, and our intimacy has always been that way. This is the first time we'd done it planned and i really haven't liked it, i don't know if he did either. I also found that while dtd my mind would be racing with thoughts about the new baby, not very arousing and i just couldn't focus!

So i'm not going to chart anymore, or plan to dtd. In theory my body should be aroused when i have fertile cm so hopefully it coincides. And on the upside of this, after our nice dinner/d&m/wine we had some genuine intimacy time together where the focus was just us. CD 14 tomorrow (not that i'm counting ) so we'll see.