I know i felt just like you did for a long time - and i'm pretty sure we aren't the only ones.
It did put some real awkwardness between myself and DH, and then some anger and frustration too.
I have no advice for you - sorry, but maybe a bit of a break from the constant monitoring etc might help you both relax and see DTD as less of a chore.
Then when you feel like it, maybe get back into charting/monitoring.
Good luck.