Jennifer13 - I have a similar philosophy - domestic violence for 10 years and had to decide whether I would let it (PTSD) rule the rest of my life or take control of it.

I had trouble with A new Earth - I felt that he was rehashing things that previous authors had discussed. I tend not to stick to any one particular philosophy, but instead let signs in my life show lead me towards what I need... so I've gone through the following texts:

Bhagavad Gita
Caroline Myss - The castle within
St Teresa's books - The maisons (which are really hard to read and you have to be in the zone)
Buddhism - various books Dali Lama
Jack Kornfield - After the estacy the laundry and a path with heart.
Tenzin Palmo - A cave in the snow and reflections on a mountain lake.
What the bleep (the movie)
Cosmology books
Gaia books
A whole stack of spiritual books

Sorry off topic....but for me its a conscious decision and sometimes its a difficult one, and a difficult road to travel at times.