hi there,
i haven't been diagnosed with endo yet, and i'm currently going through fertility treatment, however i've been having painful sex for many years. And yes i truly feel your pain.
my DH and i have devised a routine where we know which time of the month hurts more than others and what positions we can and can't do. i too get anxious beforehand and i feel it has impacted on my sexdrive but i try and relax as much as possible.
just before my periods doesn't hurt as much, so we make it to the bedroom a bit more and just after my periods i can't even do anything for at least a week. we try to sneak some postions in however sometimes ends up with a sharp pain and near tears, so we basically stear clear.
it's very frustrating. this pain is deep and has been gradually getting worse and at first every doctor told me to just use lube. i was going home in tears each time totally confused/frustrated, plus i didn't know anyone else going through this untill i found this site.
finally my gynae believes i have endo but have to wait for the specialist to see what's next.
fortunately for me i have an amazing DH who never pushes me and always understands, but i used to feel so bad at first, even though there was nothing i could do about it.
it's a little hard for us at the moment cause we are TTC but i've been having terrible ovulation pain and painful sex. but we're working on it.
i know it sounds like a roster but if you can work out which positions are good for you and whether there are times of the month that hurt less than others just go for them. i've found it much less stressful and enjoyable for both of us.
hope relief comes to all of us soon.