BabySocks, gee I'm sorry I didn't read this thread earlier, I just got to the bit where you said "Even when I was pregnant, and crawling around on my hands and knees on the ground because standing up was just too agonizing, he still wouldn't do anything around the house and got ****ed off with ME because the house was a mess." and I said "uh-oh this man is abusive" and then I read your next post(!) and yes, the physical abuse is just a culmination of all of the other (emotional) abuse you've been living with. Hun, I really hope he is gone for good, and most of all I hope you are able to get some support and counselling for the last couple of years because I'm fairly sure that being in a relationship with this man will have gradually chipped pieces off you. Good luck to you and your DD and I hope you have a safe and strong and happy life together. I don't know whether you'll be able to negotiate a reasonable relationship for your daughter with her dad, but I do know she is much better off having a strong and empowered single mother than one who lives in fear and intimidation.