agghh, need to vent realy realy sorry if this dosent fall under this categry or not, not sure anymore...

was planing on going shopping with df and 3 of the kids today while ds2 was at daycare.. mum starts making plans on the phone lastnight, coming over and us going shopping, i tell her our plans (we havent had the chance to do a "big" shop together since A was born) no matter what i said she was coming over, apparently we cant shop with our kids, we need her to watch them for us so we can, blah blah.. i ended up saying i needed some "down time" and was going alone, DF recived a call from his dad thismorning yelling and carrying on that DF needs to take the kids over to his place so i can have a break, blah blah, (yup mum had called) and basicaly the kids all had to go with df to fil's so mum could take me shopping and for some "me time"
also had a message (from mum) "ur entitled 2 ***** u have ur hands full& not much help i should help more im not much of a mother.."

why are we so incompetent we cant even do something simple?
why dose what we want as a family not matter?

oh thats right even tho we are adults and have our own family, were still just kids obviously we know bugger all and have no idea.