DTD for me is very high on the priority list for me. When its not happening for me other issues start to come up in our marriage.

We have 3 children ranging in age from 2years to 13. The 13 year old is the hardest as at her age she would suspect whats going on if we are by ourselves for 2 long.

Ways for us to get one in so to speak is to be spontaneous. The planned ones half the time go out the window as you don't always know who will be having a tantrum, not asleep, fighting etc. If we wait until they are all in bed asleep we can be too tired to be bothered.

I don't have a problem DTD with our sleeping 2yr old in our bedroom or awake if in another part of the house. We will often sneak one in once we are both home from work. The kids will be eating afternoon tea for example or watching a DVD together. Luckily our house is very large (4 living areas, 5bedrooms etc)

Yes I was less touchy after birth and for a long time afterwards. That's mainly because I was self conscious about my body. BF also knocks my libido considerable as does any form of contraception. I have not been on contraception for over 6 years now and its great for boosting the libido. I find if the desire both mentally and physically is there you make it a priority and are a little more adventurous. Times when the desire for me is gone (such as when BF) its much more difficult and it feels like an effort to DTD.