Can be tricky, but we try downstairs once all the kids are upstairs in bed asleep at night (DD3 is in our room, although doesn't start the night in our bed now so frees it up for a while). Having to be a bit more spontaneous and creative can be exciting too!

I don't mind touching, despite bfing two, but I do find my bbs are no longer a pleasure zone for me.

Honestly, I go by the old Nike slogan: Just do it. It's an important part of our relationship, even though the frequency def diminished over time! We are almost 14 1/2 years into our relationship and I think it matters that we each put effort into physical intimacy. There are plenty of times when it's waned in the past, mostly coinciding with relationship issues, and I'm glad we've come back from that.