It's pretty rare in our house at the moment. We've had our longest drought yet due to sleep issues with DS, me having feeding issues and very very sore nipples, sickness, etc etc. All that was understandable, but it does seem to take a toll when you're not getting that level of intimacy. So last night we found a window and took a shower together. It's not the way we'd prefer but we take the something is better than nothing approach!

Even in 'normal' times though, I'm not up for it much. We can go a long time without before I realise just how long it's been, and usually what makes me realise is that our relationship changed slightly, we don't have that closeness and I can sense that DH wants it but doesn't want to pressure. I have an issue with too much touch - I have someone on me all day - so I'm usually happy to fall into bed at the end of the day and try to get as much sleep as possible before DS is awake again.

So, I guess I just wanted to say you're not alone!

To actually do it though, as soon as the kids are asleep is best for us. Neither of us are comfortable it while they're awake - DD would come looking for us and I'd just be worrying about what she's doing. We go to other rooms if the bedroom isn't suitable. Sometimes planning for it works, because I need to get in the mood, other times the plans fall through because of kids or sickness or whatever.

I find the best ones are actually when I prepare for it mentally myself, get myself right in the mood and then just jump him when the time is right lol.