I hope my SIL is still stalking me and reads this.

We stopped talking again because she tried to tell me that ALL women who get beaten CHOOSE to stay and that its "easy" to just get up and walk away and there would be "no way" she would ever let a man hit her. Its not always so black and white. She upset me quite badly but *I* was the horrible one for not accepting her opinion which wasn't the case telling me that my mum CHOSE to get beaten her entire 10 year marriage, nevermind the fact if my mum left he would hunt her down and kill her and us kids. Or a story i mentioned about a woman my mum knew who was forced to have over 10 kids to a man who beat her everyday, would force himself onto her, make her have his kids and wouldnt let her stay in hospital after giving birth she had to come home and have sex with him no matter if she had stitches or was bleeding. But this woman CHOSE that life apparently.

And for that i will NEVER respect or talk to my SIL ever again.

I don't think anyone has the right to judge a woman who is in a DV situation, you can offer help but at the end of the day its her decision whether she stays or goes. Sometimes they really are under the delusion the man loves her.

People know my story, i won't repeat it for others but it has taken a LONG time to overcome it. I will never fully forgive him for anything but we have moved on, i have let him know its to never happen again. But this really is a touchy subject and people have different opinions.