I was in tears when I saw this post this morning. I have heard every single one of these... And more.

I was called lazy. I was told I was letting my son down. I was told my son was never going to thrive and it was all my fault. I was told I must have wanted it enough cause if I did it would happen.

I even had one very nasty SCN midwife who decided to "punish" me by not letting me touch or pick up my son and who took him away from me into another room to feed him. This happened 2 nights in a row. Luckily my sobbing alerted another midwife who helped me make a formal complaint to the hospital.

I have also had people follow up "so when are you having #2?" with "so are you going to try harder to feed the next one?"

There is such a stigma out there, and having it rammed down your throat when you're already fragile & guilt-ridden doesn't help.

And as for the list of what BF advocates SHOULD say, it's simple. One & only point. Unless you have that person's full story/history and unless they ask your advice, SAY NOTHING!


Thanks again Tinks for posting! *mwah*