I get the impression on this forum though that this approach isn't liked and telling a FF mum she could have BF is wrong... and this thread says so too. So, is this just a personal thing and I've been lucky that my RL friends have been more open to the discussion or do you think I'm really just annoying everyone and I didn't realise?
I think saying to a mother you could have BF if she tried harder (because it worked for me) will quite probably upset her...you are essentially telling her she failed.
I think a better approach is to say if you are likely to try BF your next baby you may try these things to hopefully get a little further.
So instead of making her feel like a failure you are giving her hope she can do it next time.
Just a thought