What? That law got passed? Smacking is now banned here??
I am not sure where you are, but I know that recently the "No smack" law was defeated in QLD, and NSW has acceptable smacking specified.

It must not:
* Be above the shoulders
* Cause sustained pain
* Leave a mark
* Be done by anything but an open hand

Onto the subject at hand!

I try not to think of it as 'judging', more like - having an opinion. For example, in my opinion, anyone who would let a know pedophile stay in their home with their child deserves to have that child taken from them until they learn to put that childs needs first. Putting the child first is - in my opinion - an agreement you make with yourself before you get pregnant.

It is also - in my experience - a very bad idea to give babies cola. My XH used to give DD1 coke in her bottle while I was at work because it was easy for him. I ended up leaving him because the health and welfare of our children was not a priority for him and no amount of 'training' changed that. He still gave her coke. He still treated DS like he didnt exist, and he still dumped them with his father at every opportunity. All also in my opinion bad traits. To give you an idea of how important his trophy wife and kids were to him, he was happy to give me full custody with all rights and no interference if we left the state and he got to keep the house, contents and shop we owned. I agreed. The coke had already ruined DDs baby teeth. I was not going to let him ruin any more of their childhood.

IMO, co-sleeping is one of the best methods of giving mum and bub the best and most rest possible. However, IMO, you should not do it if you have been drinking, use recreational drugs or medication that causes drowsiness.

That way its not judging anyone. Its just my opinion. Everyone is free to have a different one. It doesn't automatically make either right or wrong, just different.