I definently think that Happy Baby = Happy Mum...and not the other way around.
For instance my little man is still not sleeping through the night and still needs to be cuddled to sleep at night, but you should hear all the comments and pressure I am getting from friends and DH to "just let him cry, he needs to learn". Learn what?? Learn that his mummy is just going to dump him in the cot and walk away when he needs to be cuddled?? Well, thats not going to happen...I must admit I have tried to leave him to put himself to sleep...and it it certainly did not make for a happy baby or a happy mummy!! So now, I sit in his room and cuddle him to sleep, which takes no more than ten minutes of my time....I'd rather spend ten minutes cuddling and looking at my precious baby than an hour going in and out of his room every few minutes while he screams.

Anyway, I dont know if that ramble actually makes a point, LOL, but I havent had any significant "me" time for a long, long, long time, and although I sometimes complain to DH about it (when I am particularly tired or stressed) I wouldnt have it any other way...and either would my very happy and content baby.