My conclusion is that no matter which way you put those 4 words, it's all just self-serving bullsh.. to try and make you feel better for the choices you make...
They are just fluffy buzz words for what we have to believe to *survive* raising our children at times.
Completely agree. I think that's why the phrase irritates me. I hate sayings that are only what people want to hear.

It's one reason I rarely go into the boohoo room because it feels like people are just in there fishing for people to say what they want to hear. LOL.