This has been an interesting read. I have often thought that the HM=HB statement should be banned. Often when I have encountered it, it really means Happy Mummy = stuff everyone else and their needs. I have heard it used as an excuse to turn playgroups into Mummy wine drinking sessions, as the mummies are more relaxed, so the kids must be! I now tend to ignore advice that is justified with that statement, as I feel that if the person is using it with me, that they don't really understand me and my situation.