Does happy mum REALLY equal happy baby?

[Willow]

Now I'm not talking about stopping things that will crack your head apart if you don't stop or endeavor to change them

Just to clarify my earlier post - this IS what I meant when I was talking about the baby's needs always coming first no matter the affect it has on the mother - I'm talking about the stuff that will 'crack your head apart'...not things like wanting your baby to sleep through the night at 6w old etc etc.

As an example, I had a friend who's 18 month old would wake up at night and be awake for 4 solid hours, every single night for months and months and months. That mum had 2 sets of twins under 4 years and was just about ready to lose her mind with sleep deprivation. Should she have let that continue because that's what the baby 'wanted/needed'? In that situation...no, I personally don't think she should have and I supported her all the way when she sought help to get her baby sleeping again.